Sparking the flame

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Sometimes it’s hard to follow through on realizing a dream. Oftentimes for no other reason than we stand in our own way. We let the minor details overwhelm us into do nothingness. Instead of combating each small goal one step at a time. We get comfortable in the darkness and stop working towards the light.

This was a problem I battled. For years friends and acquaintances alike encouraged me to write a book, to get my words out there. And for years I hemmed and hawed and smiled saying I would or that I was working on it. Most of the time working on it meant I wrote down my goal and a few notes and then became overwhelmed at the thought and pushed it away. Until one day a sister-friend saw I needed a good shove off the ledge. She called and me and said, “Sis you have all the material already for a book. Copy and paste all those Facebook posts, print them out, categorize them and publish your book!” In other words, “Sis stop playing and make a move!” So, that’s exactly what I did.

My friend was the catalyst bearing clarity I needed to clearly see the steps and path I needed to take to reach my goal. Once that path was laid, it was nothing to complete. I had a book self-published so fast even I was in awe of myself. Luckily for me that fire is still burning and the urge to create is still there. So, I’m writing and blogging and creating, preparing for my next project or projects. I’m trying not to worry too much about sales and projections. I understand to finish big you must start small and I’m already claiming greater works and greater sales in my future endeavors.

That’s the thing about dreams, you must keep pushing and working on them. No matter what the outlook may look like. The adversary will try to trick you into believing your good wasn’t good enough, or that your best fell short. But I know that light flows out of darkness, the flame will spark, if you are patient and just keep pushing!

Refocus, reorganize, re-energize but don’t you dare quit!
~Micaiah

Reflecting on my blessings

November is my birth month and as I get ready to celebrate my 47th revolution around the sun on the 10th I sit back and think of what my life has been so far.

I must thank my parents, a bittersweet contemplation as they are both no longer on this earth with me. I continue to hold them in my heart and I pray I am a good representation of what they were both like as parents and individuals.

47 years and still so much I want to accomplish but I’ve learned that you can’t discount the little things in your life when counting blessings.

Sometimes we get caught up waiting for the “big blessings” and forget to be OK with having enough. There are so many people that do need have enough to meet their basic needs and yet we all get caught up in the vanity of our desires. But it’s here and now as I contemplate my life thus far that I make a conscious effort to be OK with enough. I know that more good things are destined for my life, but even if there weren’t I couldn’t complain because I’ve been greatly blessed. Blessed with a 2-parent home growing up, siblings, friends that became family, great school experiences, introduction to art and culture, self-identity, traveling outside my city and state, motherhood, skills, creative mind-set, nursing career and more. Phew! That’s a lot to be thankful for.

I also have come to realize how important it is to take the time to make the time. We often say we are too busy with life, family and work. But when you lose a loved one or friend and you reflect on all the missed moments that you were “too busy” you come to realize that you will make time and effort for things and people that are truly important. Love just can’t be spoken it has to be shown to truly be felt in its wholeness. There is no better feeling than true love, friendship and admiration. If someone crosses your mind call them or visit. Don’t rely on social media and allow it to replace the intimacy of human contact and interaction.

And although at times I think I should be much further in life than I am, I also understand I am exactly where I need to be, and I helped exactly who I needed to by being exactly where I am. So, I am appreciating and trusting the process.

I will continue to dream my dreams and chase my goals. I will take the time, to make the time for family and friends. I will laugh, love and live. Most of all I will be thankful for enough and remember that I am enough personified!

Remember to make the time between the dash count!

~Micaiah

You never miss your water….

I offered you a big cup to fill your soul up

but you didn’t see the treasure

as you looked for other pleasures

now you can’t find a way to quench your thirst

thinking you could find better when you had the best first

trying so hard to satisfy your desires

yet it seems no one else can stoke your fire

should have taken that cup

now time has passed you up

as you stand there regretting

fate will have you witness someone else’s cup

be filled soul satisfyingly up

~micaiah

Words

I've loved words before I could speak them

They created lullabies in the womb by which I grew

Words are my music

They create symphonic images in my mind that stir my soul

Words have always held magic and power

The power to buildup and the power to breakdown

The power to hurt and the power to heal

The power to reconstruct your present and memorialize your past

Words run through my mind like cosmic rays of energy,

I connect with them on a spiritual level

Words lift me and twirl me around in dizzying yet gratifying circles

Providing comfort throughout life's trials

Becoming my friend and confidante and sealing my relationship with pen and paper

Words are free

Free to just be

Yet have the power to be different things for different people and situations

Words tend to knowledge and wisdom when applied to an open mind

Words are transformative

Words live

Words are life

~micaiah

Go your own way

People will tell you not to get child rearing advice from people without children, not to get relationship advice from single people and not to get money advice from those without money. It’s silly to think the only people with knowledge are those that go through whatever experience you have. Some people are so observant that they gleam knowledge and wisdom from the experiences of those around them, the wise are warned by taking heed to the failings of the simple.

Maybe the single person was raised in a two parent home and learned what it takes to make a relationship and or marriage work or maybe they’ve been involved in enough bad relationships to be able to warn others from the pitfalls therein. Maybe the childless person hasn’t given birth to children but have played pivotal roles in the lives and upbringing of children. And just maybe their bad management of money is everything you need to hear to be able to make prudent and sound investments with your own.

People will have you believe that you must be educated to be intelligent, when I’ve seen people with street smarts and common sense go farther than book smarts and a degree could take them. The drive to succeed is just as much a determining factor of a person’s potential to succeed as a degree is.

That’s not to say one should not acquire a higher education, rather it’s to point out that it’s not the only way to get ahead in life. If school works for you, go as high up the educational ladder as you need, to  make your dreams come true, but don’t knock other people whose paths lead them on a different path than you. Don’t get so caught up on titles that you forget knowledge is a gift and wisdom is too.

Be open to gaining knowledge and insight from any and everyone and don’t a book by it’s cover because the person you may have thought to disregard may just hold all the answers you seek. Remember a person’s present circumstance may not tell their past triumphs.

Remember everyone has an opinion, but ultimately your life and your choices are just that, YOURS!

Determine your own path, even if it’s the one less traveled. And if you meet a poor man along that path, have a conversation with them, you just might learn something new.~micaiah

 

Smile

When a light bulb burns out we change it, the same concept can be applied to our attitudes. When we feel our attitude sucks, change it. Most of the time changing ones’ mood is merely as simple as changing ones’ thoughts.

The mind is powerful and can be controlling. What you give energy to, has the power to consume you.

If you think negatively you will produce negativity, your thoughts become your self-fulfilling prophesy, likewise if you think positively you will attract positivity. Does this mean that positive people never have days that don’t go their way? No, but it means that instead of harping on went wrong they focus on the things that went well, no matter how small or seemingly insignificant. Truly the difference between a good day and a bad day is perspective.

It’s true that you are what you think so if you think yourself happy, your actions will lead you to being happy, because more often than not, thoughts drive our actions.  The simplest and cheapest form of self-improvement is not money, clothes, make up, hair styles, etc. it is a smile. When you pair that smile with a positive attitude, well you have a winning combination. A simple smile can transform, not only a person’s face, but how others view you as a whole and that same smile can cause a positive reaction in others.

Don’t believe me, well try it out. Take a day to randomly smile at every one you meet in passing. To add extra icing on this cake of positivity add in a hello or have a good day. The thought of wishing a virtual stranger well, resonates within the universe and increases the positive vibes and energy coming back at you. It may be the sunshine needed to brighten a dark day for someone else. Smiles are a cheap, easy and virtually effortless ways to share your light and love with others.

Remember we cannot control what other people think, say or do, we can only control our reactions to them. Choose to walk away from people and situations that do not feed your spirit with goodness and light. Do not allow yourself to relinquish power of your emotional well-being to another. Happiness and joy is precious and invaluable, so don’t sell yourself short.

Practice positive affirmations until it becomes habitual, treat yourself with love and care.

Guard your thoughts and reverse negative thinking. Every challenge or obstacle faced prepares you to be more critical in your thinking and strengthens your resolve and problem solving efforts, which enhances your character. A boulder in your pathway can be a stepping stone or a stumbling block, it’s all about how you perceive and act upon it. You can walk over it or around it, either way you get past it. And that’s the point, that boulder didn’t stop your progress it became a part of it!

A smile may not cure all the ills of the world, but it can make you feel better!

So Smile!~micaiah

Multi- Masking

Sometimes in our quest to find fulfillment, we become overwhelmed and our mind shuts down.

We can envision so many scenarios for our life but unless we stick to one path and one goal at a time, the road becomes cluttered with an overabundance of paths that lead to nowhere. It’s impossible to learn to walk without learning the art of taking one step at a time, such is true in regard to progression in life.

There very well may be a broad picture, but sometimes we have to allow ourselves to work up to that, one stroke and one step at a time. Not allowing ourselves to measure our progress through the comparison of others seemingly on similar paths. Each journey is different and each lesson is Divinely tailored for the person receiving it.

We have to learn to be patient and for some waiting is so very difficult. But when we attempt to push when we are supposed to be still, the Supreme Power has a way of shutting us down and forcing us to be still and listen to instruction. It’s impossible to listen when one is not focused and one cannot be focused when energies are concentrated on a multitude of things all at once. It’s when we are unfocused that we often find we are busy, yet still accomplishing nothing, because we have not devoted ourselves 100% to one thing at a time.

There is a difference between multi-tasking and multi-masking, multi-tasking is completing or performing multiple tasks at the same time to a desired end. Multi-masking is the appearance of making moves when no progression or completion of tasks is actually ever made.

We have to allow ourselves breathing room, learning how to not only be patient with others, but more importantly with ourselves.

So stop trying to force your neighbor’s shoes onto your feet and stop trying to follow the map to someone else’s life, it won’t lead you to your treasure.

Stop worrying about how your life looks to others and get busy one step towards progress at a time

Instead, BE STILL. LISTEN. PLAN. Then FOLLOW your plan to get to your desired end result.~micaiah

Brokenness

In life we encounter people that cannot begin to love/respect you as a friend, mate, and sibling or even as a coworker, because of the brokenness of their own spirit and self-esteem. And we as humans think that it is our duty, especially if we say we love/care for someone, to attempt to fix them even at the risk of our own well-being. Love can be a tricky thing, because it can have you ignore logic and pay attention solely to emotions which can be hazardous to one’s health. When someone for whatever reason is so broken that they cannot love and respect themselves by making healthy and emotionally sound decisions, it will be impossible for them to be involved in a healthy, loving, respectful relationship.

People cannot give to others what they cannot give to themselves.

You cannot love people whole. What you can do is love them enough to encourage them to love and tend to themselves. You can be supportive without being an enabler and motivate them to care enough for themselves to want better, to want to be whole.

Thinking solely with our heart we will fool ourselves into believing that if we accept the brokenness, if we just stand beside them long enough, we can will them into changing. Let me tell you that if a glass falls and breaks, if you are in the vicinity you will get cut as it shatters. Those cuts may not be physical, they may come in the form of mental and emotional exhaustion. Broken people cannot make deposits into you, they only make withdrawals, and it is but one symptom of their brokenness.

That is why you have to put limits on your involvement, pray for them, but let them know you are not OK being in an unevenly yoked relationship and yes, the relationship can be a friendship, work relationship etc.  People need to understand that their brokenness affects others and it’s not OK to stay broken and expect the people around you to make concessions forever.

Tough love can be a wonderful thing and acting as a mirror to a person that cannot see themselves is even more wonderful.

Peace cannot live in the place where chaos dwells. So free yourself from the broken relationship. Pray for them and encourage them to fix themselves.

Most of all be sure to protect and love yourself enough to love them from a safe distance.~micaiah

 

Soul-ar Eclipse

I was afraid of my own electrifying power
So I eclipsed my light
I allowed life to live me
I didn’t trust myself to live life
Taking comfort in the solace that darkness brings
While pushing others into their self-fulfilled spotlights
The light that illuminates the flaws and glares blindingly
In the mirror of introspection
Helping others, while allowing my own dreams to be sacrificed in martyrdom
Providing artificial comfort opposed to the the prospect of failure
Until I looked into the brown eyes of an innocent soul
Created in my image
Peering up at me with the expectancy for the appearance of my greatness
Its what was whispered into that young soul from her conception
Bouncing off the walls of the womb in a staccato symphony of what would be
So in the face of such innocent revelry
The nondescript camouflage of complacency
Had to be replaced
With an outfit of Divine Design
Reminding the sleeping Goddess within
That light sprang forth from the Darkness
Its a moral sin to hold such greatness in
Shine on!!!
~Micaiah